I, Vicky, got asked this on a training day the other day and had to think carefully about my response. I touched on this in blog no.73 ‘I thought you were blind part 2’ (https://vidatraining.weebly.com/blog/73-i-thought-you-were-blind-part-2) but when I was asked the question directly the other day I had to carefully consider my answer and have thought about it more since. The honest answer is ‘No, I don’t forget’ as Dave’s blindness is an important part of him and is an essential part of our working together. However, I’m always concerned that by saying I don’t forget some people will take from that that’s all I think about Dave - this is definitely not the case. So, I thought about it and decided the honest answer is no I don’t forget, but then I don’t forget he’s male, 6 foot tall, is married with 2 kids and has a slightly risqué sense of humour either 😊 (smiley face). And although it’s very much a part of our working day, it’s not our only focus – obviously food is a much more important consideration for both of us!
And that’s the explanation I will use going forward! And to add that I don’t expect Dave forgets he’s blind either but that he too thinks about other things 😉 (winking face) – again with food being the main one of course!
There’s an interesting article by Jen Pearlstein’s on The Mighty website that we mentioned before https://themighty.com/2017/06/when-people-say-they-forget-about-my-disability/#_=_desribes which details how she now doesn’t find it a compliment when people forget she has a vision impairment and actually finds it offensive when they could assume it is a compliment. It’s a really interesting article and well worth a read.
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Our VIDA Insights...
Following our experiences from delivering our Vision Impairment Awareness training days over the past couple of years, we know that there’s loads more that we could talk about and examples we could have shared. Whilst these won’t be a substitute for our training, they will give you an insight (hence the name!) into our thoughts, observations and experiences from each of our perspectives - Dave’s living with sight loss and Vicky’s from being a sighted person and working alongside and supporting people who have sight loss.